Question: Are you focused on something else when this person kisses you? Roselle Umlas There is truth to the saying that opposites attract. So, to figure out what to do next, ask yourself how important the sex part of a relationship really is to you. The very first thing you notice about someone is how they look. DOI: Hall JA, et al. To make sure that you dont confuse your lack of sexual interest with your lack of sexual attraction, you should ask yourself whether youre ever in the mood to have sex. What Im suggesting is to make sure that theres nothing wrong with the way you see this person. It could mean love, desire, or just plain attraction. //